The Rest of the Serenity Prayer

Did you know there was another part to the serenity prayer?  I didn’t!  I had always recited,  “God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.” That was it!   (NOTE:  I’ve since learned that’s not even the original interpretation.)

Once I started going to Celebrate Recovery, I learned there was a second (and more important) part to the prayer. I didn’t even know, until recently, that the Serenity Prayer was something that was used in lots of recovery programs across the nation (apparently, that’s what made it so famous). I assumed that everyone used the whole prayer.  To my surprise, I’ve come to realize the other recovery programs aren’t using the second half the prayer.  I think they’re missing out on the most pivotal part of the prayer.

The rest of the prayer goes like this:

“…Living one day at a time,
Enjoying one moment at a time,
Accepting hardship as a pathway to peace,
Taking, as Jesus did,
This sinful world as it is,
Not as I would have it,
Trusting that You will make all things right,
If I surrender to Your will,
So that I may be reasonably happy in this life,
And supremely happy with You forever in the next.”

Awesome words!  Some programs that do use the rest of the Serenity prayer substitute “He” for “Jesus”.  No matter, I love the thought behind this prayer.  On another curious note, I did some research and it’s interesting to trace back the history on who wrote it, when it was picked up by Bill W. for the AA programs and the interesting perspectives on how it evolved.

Anyway, I’m happy that Celebrate Recovery uses the second half because I think that part really speaks truth about how I learn from my hardships and welcome the diversity.  More importantly, I think it gives me an example to live by (“Taking as Jesus did…”), instructions on how do do just that (“If I surrender to your will.”), and a result if I do it…(“I may be reasonably happy in this life, And supremely happy with You forever in the next.”)

I have a new appreciation about the Serenity Prayer and it has given new meaning to my life.  What has been your experience with the Serenity Prayer?

The Complete Serenity Prayer

God, give us grace to accept with serenity
the things that cannot be changed,
courage to change the things
which should be changed,
and the wisdom to distinguish
the one from the other.
Living one day at a time,
Enjoying one moment at a time,
Accepting hardship as a pathway to peace,
Taking, as Jesus did,
This sinful world as it is,
Not as I would have it,
Trusting that You will make all things right,
If I surrender to Your will,
So that I may be reasonably happy in this life,
And supremely happy with You forever in the next.

    Amen.
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Christ-Centered Recovery

It’s no secret that I struggle with my weight — and have all my life.  It’s no wonder with all the abandonment, abuse, and confidence issues in my life.   Even with all the healing I’ve had from therapy, I feel like I’ve reached a “stand off” and I’m stuck – I can’t seem to get to the root of why I don’t work harder to lose weight.  Many times through my therapy, it was suggested that I attend a 12-step program.  I tried it, but I always had a difficult time keeping my higher power “anonymous”.  It just didn’t feel legitimate to me if I couldn’t own Him.  After all, my faith in Christ was the main catalyst for my healing so far.

A year ago our church began a Celebrate Recovery ministry and I was curious.  I learned that it wasn’t just for addicts and alcoholics, but it was for anyone with any kind of hurt, habit or hangup.  Could this be the right avenue for me?  I hesitated.  I dragged my feet.  I wondered.  I always meant to make it to the meeting.

About a month ago, I decided to make the commitment.  I finally found “the something” I’ve been missing…a Christ-centered program based on the 12 steps.  This is a program where I’ll learn to work the steps and turn over my will to Christ.  I’ll get (and give) some true accountability, I’ll learn how to make amends and grow my personal relationship with Christ.  This last month has been one of vulnerability, realizations and connections, but I am now “unstuck” and God is moving in my life.

I’m sharing my story because I’m convinced I’m in the right place.  Right now, I’m sharing from a place of weakness, not from a place of victory.  I’ve been trying to do this work on my own without turning over my will to Christ…without accountability partners and without like-minded recovery friends.  As I’ve begun to work the program I realize I’m here for more than a food addiction.  I’m also working on control and anger issues as well as co-dependency and over-commitment.  I’m turning my will over to Christ and I’m excited about my journey.

Do you have experience with a recovery program?  I’d love to hear about it and learn from you.